Online and In-person Therapy for individuals and couples in California
Grief & Trauma Recovery For the Deep-Thinkers
I help clients…
Learn how to manage intense emotion and navigate grief waves
Navigate shifting and challenging new family/ friendship dynamics
Find a sense of balance between grief and daily life
Heal from old trauma keeping you from being present with your profound grief
Navigate your sense of self and identity without the physical presence of your person
Create a life that carries your loved one with you into every single moment
Create rituals and traditions that keep you deeply connected to your person
-as time passes, you will start to forget them, and that if you enjoy life then that means you’re moving on too quickly.
-your feelings of anxiety or intense emotions are too much, and if you let yourself feel them, you’ll lose control.
-you or another loved one will get sick or get hurt, and that there’s doom lurking around every corner.
-you and your grief are a burden to others and you need to keep it together.
-that you’re emotionally numb or not feeling enough.
-that you’ll never be happy again.
-that you’ll be perceived as weak or not strong enough if you were to be honest about what you’re feeling.
You might fear that…
You’re in the Right Place If…
Since the loss you feel disoriented, angry, and confused at how to move forward.
You are always “the strong one” or the “so mature one” and feel utterly alone. You wonder if anyone is capable of supporting you.
You feel anxious and worry about others dying, or you have intrusive thoughts about cancer, fatal accidents, etc.
You feel like a burden to others and worry your sadness will push people further away.
You’re currently experiencing anticipatory grief- a loved one is currently dying.
You experience frequent low moods and increased irritability that feels uncontrollable.
You’re worried that you’ll never feel joy again, or that your pain is too much for others (and let’s be real, for yourself) to handle.
And you’re ready to…
Rediscover your sense of self and integrate your loss into your new identity
Cultivate a meaningful connection with your grief
Discover new meaning and purpose in life- maybe reevaluating beliefs, goals, and what fulfillment is
Experience emotional healing and wholeness- navigate emotions in a way that feels true and balanced
Harness the ability to embrace life again and fully engage with joy and love without worrying it diminishes your experience of loss
Let go of fear of meaninglessness, and fear of losing others
To honor your person by living a life that allows them to come with you in ways of inspiration and positive influence.
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P.S. You’re right.
You and your life are forever changed by their absence. It’s confusing, scary, and painful to keep moving through this world with the heavy, all-consuming weight of grief covering you like a wet, weighted-blanket that no one else can see.
I know you will never “move on”, and you’re not supposed to. Your entire world has changed with losing your person, yet you exist in a culture that doesn’t get it. You are grieving within a society that is largely scared of death and very uneducated about the effects of loss and what grievers like you need to feel supported. Our culture is the problem, not you.
What I know to be true about grief from personal experience and from years of grief work, is that our entire beings are affected by this tremendous stress and agony. Talking about the grief isn’t typically enough to promote actual healing, because our emotions live below the neck-in our bodies, where we feel. Learning to feel and process feelings is different than talking about. Being with the painful emotions is a skill you can learn, and one you will have to use over and over again as your grief shifts, changes shape and takes on new meaning as you continue to live. I’m honored to walk this path with you.
Here’s my promise to you.
I will meet you wherever you’re at in your grief without judgement, suggestions, or platitudes. I will encourage you to take specific steps toward healing, emphasizing that while the loss will always be a part of your story, it doesn’t have to define your entire narrative. This might involve dedicating time outside of the healing in therapy to self-care and exploring new interests.
In doing so, you will avoid the pitfalls of isolation, unresolved grief, and a life lived in the shadow of your loss without moving forward. It’s okay to feel happy again, and while the happiness can’t ever be exactly the same, allowing joy and contentment honors the memory of your loved one.